Often than not, we say something we don't really mean it or at least it does not conceive the way it was supposed to be. Generally, 2 outcomes can be concluded: constructive or destructive.
I find myself relating better (or so I thought) in written form than in verbal expressions. Paradoxically, it turned out to be that none (of the above-mentioned) is pre-eminent than the other. Which means, I am not good in either and often have to rely on both ways to relate, express myself. Predominantly, both co-exist in my real world.
Let me cite an analogy: A picturesque oil painting of a flaming sun along the horizon. To an optimistic person, he/ she sees sunrise. But to a pessimisitic person, he/ she sees sunset. There is no right/ wrong. Moral to ponder: each individual will have different ideas/ views/ opinions on everything.
The use of the right words, at the right place and with the right timing are vital ingredients in whipping up an effective communication coherently.
In future, I just have to be more articulate, more tactful in order to promote a conducive environment for constructive and effective communication.
Maybe it is a splendid idea to perform a houdini act and veg out this very minute.