Many times we heard people saying to forgive and forget. The former is easily accomplished but for the latter, it is often easier said than done. This is especially true when the consequences of a matter proved to incur a drastic effect which may change lives forever.
I am sure many of us encountered incidents/ misunderstandings whereby even though in our heart we may have forgiven that person who has hurt us, but over the years, it will somehow surface itself again. Subconsciously, it is still hidden somewhere, in the darkest corner. For we may have forgiven, we still have not forgotten. Does this means that we have not totally forgiven that person? For if we did, then why didn't our memory erased off that unhappy incident forever? Like a broken vase, it may be repaired but the cracks are still there. Clearly visble to the naked eye. But alas, our human brain is not a RAM, it doesn't get information erased off when we rest our mind to sleep akin to powering down a PC.
It is because we care about that person so much that we feel hurt and unhappy when bad things happened. If this person is not important to you, will you even bother to be angry with him for long? Imagine a stranger jumping queue in front of you. Yes, at that moment you'll be angry that you might even tell that person off. But you'll probably forgive and forget after a while. You might not even remember a single detail about that stranger. This is because that person is not of any importance to you. If we can easily forgive and forget a stranger who offended us in mere minutes, then why can't we be more magmanimous to our loved ones? Yet, the person that hurt us most is the person we loved most. Such irony. But life is just like that, isn't it? Full of ironies.